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7 Year Itch

Scratching the Seven Year Itch (And the Art of Being Human)

You know those wonderful times in life when you’re in the presence of someone really special – those times when linear time is non-existent?

Personally, I believe that state of flow occurs when souls are reunited on the Earth plane.

Call me wuwu – I’m cool with that.

The other day, I was with my dear friend Sylvie Gouin and whenever we’re together, hours fly by without a trace. Two souls – joyfully connected.

Our conversation is deep, insightful, and inspirational.

And we laugh – alot!

Throughout the course of our recent conversation, we discovered that we’ve both entered an interesting time of transition in our respective lives. And, as always, I learned from my dear wise friend some interesting facts about the seven-year cycle of change. You see we’re both entering a new era. And with that, we’re feeling its turbulent yet exciting effects.

It’s really quite cool.

The past three years of my life have been mentally, physically and emotionally tumultuous with the completion of the most recent seven-year cycle.

After the sudden death of my mother in 2010, I experienced a year of desperation, grief and anger.

In 2011, following the completion of an Ironman triathlon, I experienced an emotional meltdown from the toxicity of suppressed emotions.

The subsequent year, 2012, was a year of healing, self discovery, spiritual connection, and renewal. The perfect way to transition from the old era into the beginning of the next seven-year cycle of life.

This year has been a beautiful year of rebirth for me. A year where I’ve finally embraced my purpose with full-on passion. No looking back.

And as this year winds down, a deep yearning in my heart has guided me towards a cross-country move where I’ll soon relocate to the beautiful Sunshine Coast of British Columbia. A place where life is quieter, simpler, and much more connected to the natural world. This is a part of the world that vibrates on a higher level of consciousness. Where authentic expression is revered, creativity embraced, and healthy, active living is the norm. A place with ample heart-energy to fuel my purpose to help heal an ailing planet.

I’ll admit that I’m both excited and a little sad. Excited about a new beginning and sad to leave dear friends and family behind.

One thing is certain though. When the heart speaks, I’ve learned to listen. Any attempt to rationalize my way out of “heart-speak” and history has shown with great regularity that I just get antsy, restless, and cranky. All familiar signs that intellectual interference is not welcome as another opportunity for spiritual growth is about to descend upon me.

Knowing now that another seven-year itch has arrived (thank you for that insight Sylvie), I’ll admit that I’m eager to scratch – and also to ponder the next chapter of intuition, faith and trust.

All of this inner reflection has brought to the surface of my consciousness a beautiful reminder of the human-ness that we all share.

A few years back, I received the Top Ten Rules for Being Human in my inbox. And, for reasons beyond my rationale mind, I’ve been guided to re-read these powerful words. Words that I will share with you today as I embark on a new journey of spirit.


The Top Ten Rules for Being Human

– Cherie Carter-Scott.

(Scott is an author, life coach, and motivational speaker offers consulting and coaching on all aspects of change management).

Rule One – You will receive a body. Whether you love it or hate it, it’s yours for life, so accept it. What counts is what’s inside.

Rule Two – You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons are specific to you, and learning them ‘is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life’.

Rule Three – There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it’s inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you’d want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgment – of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine – it’s also ‘the act of erasing an emotional debt’. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour – especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps – are central to the perspective that ‘mistakes’ are simply lessons we must learn.

Rule Four – The lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons – they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance – ‘causality’ must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required – change doesn’t happen overnight, so give change time to happen.

Rule Five – Learning does not end. While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the ‘rhythm of life’, don’t struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change – be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities.

Rule Six – “There” is no better than “here”. The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what’s good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace.

Rule Seven – Others are only mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs.

Rule Eight – What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don’t get angry about things – bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us – use it when you need to do what’s right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead.

Rule Nine – Your answers lie inside of you. Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration.

Rule Ten – You will forget all this at birth. We are all born with all of these capabilities – our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit. Aspire to be wise – wisdom the ultimate path of your life, and it knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself.

Remember – when the itch arrives, follow the impulse. Here’s a great blogpost describing the seven-year life cycles that we all pass through.

Live with passion. Live with purpose. Change the world.

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