Confession: I am not a personal growth, self-improvement, how-to kind of person.
I believe that the self-improvement movement has caused more problems than it has solutions. I also believe that this is the primary reason why so many people in the world today have mastered the spiritual/new age/personal growth lingo (and they know all the cool memes to post on Facebook) – but they’re still a mess on the inside. In other words, they talk the talk, but the walk still fills them with pain.
You know how it goes, talk is cheap. On the other hand, practice makes perfect and actions will always, always, always speak louder than words.
Much of what is offered in today’s personal growth/self-improvement world is comprised of various methodologies aimed at trying to fix or improve what is perceived as “broken” within ourselves. Essentially, we’re set up for failure from the get-go by starting from a place of lack where we believe that we’re deficient in a way that requires some sort of miraculous technique or affirmation to fix us. This ensures that we continually search outside of ourselves for what we will never find. What we’re really after is right under our nose – literally – bursting from within our hearts desperate to emerge. We don’t need to fix anything. We just need to open up to the truth of who we’ve always been.
When we shift our perception and move through life from a place of wholeness and allow ourselves to expand from there, this is when we experience true growth.
What I’ve learned from my dabblings in the personal growth world through the books I’ve read and the workshops I’ve taken is that alot of the “how-to fix myself” stuff only made me feel worse. I felt disillusioned and confused about who I was supposed to be (always be love and light or the boogeyman will rain on your parade), how I was supposed to think (always be positive or you’ll attract negative crap into your life), and how I was supposed to feel (if someone makes you feel like shit, it’s because they’re mirroring something deficient within you). Really?! Fortunately it didn’t take long before I was pissed off enough to just chuck it and embrace all of me instead – warts and all. Liberation!
Sure I meditate, spend time in silence, live compassionately, choose vegan, and live lightly on the planet. I give a damn about life for all living beings – including myself. I do my best to live as mindfully as possible and aim for love as often as I can. But the state of the world pisses me off and I don’t plan to just sit around in a coffee shop griping about it. Instead, I get off my butt and do something about it. My righteous anger motivates me towards action that is aligned with my deep desire for a better world. If I bought into the personal growth mindset, anger would be a flaw to be “healed” or “fixed” and I’d only end up loathing the part of myself that drives me towards love. Screw that is what I have to say!
Alot of the how-to methodologies trap us in a perpetual cycle of looking outside of ourselves for techniques, strategies, and answers that only distract us from discovering our truth. The truth of who we are exists within – it always has and it always will be within – waiting patiently to be activated by something as simple as an inspired thought.
This is why on this podcast you will never hear me telling you how to live your life. In your heart, you already have everything you need to engage your greatness. This show is about bypassing the cultural conditioning that keeps you trapped in feelings of deficiency so that you embrace the truth of who you are – a perfectly whole being of light with a few rough edges that only enhance your unique magnificence.
In this week’s Unplug podcast, I have the honor of speaking with a man whose passion for crushing the self-improvement myth is transforming lives by the thousands. My conversation with Derek Rydall is a powerful re-frame for how we must view who we are in order to emerge into who we’ve always been meant to be.
As a best-selling author, highly sought after speaker, regular Huffington Post contributor, and transformational coach to Oscar and Emmy winners and Fortune 500 execs, Derek’s work with his revolutionary principle, The Law of Emergence, has helped many people heal their lives, their relationships, their bank accounts, launch their true work, and find a deeper connection to their spirit than ever before. That’s a whole lotta awesome!
In this week’s show, we discuss:
- How suffering comes when we resist the struggle.
- When we don’t resist or judge our pain, it isn’t as painful.
- Why self-improvement is a dangerous myth and how when we understand the nature of the real self, we can’t improve upon it.
- How true wisdom is embodied knowledge that comes from practice in the midst of all life circumstances. This is soul stamina.
- What is spiritual constipation?
- How the pain pushes until the vision pulls.
- How chronic pain and challenge is an indication that we’re living in a worldview that is too small.
- What is the mind?
- We don’t get in life what we want, we get in life where we are in consciousness.
- What is the law of emergence (and how it’s radically different than the law of attraction)?
- How our pain teaches us compassion.
Derek has just released his new book by Simon and Schuster titled: Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change. I’ve read it and I love it! I’m picky about the books that I read and only choose books that inspire and ignite more of what is inside of me to emerge in a way that enhances the world. Derek’s book delivered.
Derek is no stranger to pain, but he knows the beauty that is found in each and every life experience and how every pain point is an opportunity for greater emergence into the true self.
Get ready to discover more of who you have always been meant to be because Derek Rydall is about to inspire your emergence!
- Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change book website.
- Emergence: A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change training website.
- Derek Rydall official website.
- Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change on Amazon.
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